The Back Nine

THE BACK NINE

Foreword

My mom first showed this to me and it made me cry, of course, however it also made me think and reflect a lot. Not sure who wrote this but it’s one piece of writing that has stayed with me and probably has contributed to my own recently acquired serenity and inner peace. Did a brief search on Google to find out who wrote it, most links all come to agree the original author is Author Unknown.

It’s a pretty timeless piece of writing and definitely keeps you thinking and maybe help in changing your perspective on life.

I first started reading this email and was reading fast until I reached the third sentence.

I stopped and started over, reading slower and thinking about every word.

This E-mail is very thought-provoking.

Makes you stop and think. Read slowly!

And then read it again


… AND THEN IT IS WINTER

You know… Time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was young, just having kids, and embarking on my new life with my degree and my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.

But, here it is… The back nine of my life and it catches me by surprise.

How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go?

I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that I was only on the first hole and the back nine was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.

But, here it is. My friends are retired and getting gray … they move slower and I see an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me … but, I see the great change … Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant … but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we’d become.

Each day now, I find that just taking a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore … it’s mandatory! Because if I don’t on my own free will … I may just fall asleep where I sit!

And so … now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done … and never did !!! But, at least I know, that though I’m on the back nine, and I’m not sure how long it will last … 2 or 3, or 15 or 20 years ? … this I do know, that when it’s over on this earth…it’s over. Does a new adventure begin? I really don’t know. Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done … things I should have done … but there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime.

IF YOU ARE NOT ON THE BACK NINE YET…

… let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life, please do it quickly! Don’t put things off too long!! Life goes by quickly. Do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether you’re on the back nine or not!

You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life … so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember … and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!!!

“Life” is a gift.

The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one.

LIVE IT WELL! ENJOY TODAY! DO SOMETHING FUN! BE HAPPY ! HAVE A GREAT DAY Remember “It is health that is real wealth and not those pieces of gold and silver. LIVE HAPPY IN 2014!

FINALLY, CONSIDER THIS:

*Your kids are becoming you but your grandchildren are perfect so far!


*Going out is good … coming home is better!


*You forget names … but it’s OK because some people forgot they even knew you!!!


*You realize you’re never going to be really good at anything like golf.


*The things you used to care to do, are not as interesting anymore, but you really do care that you aren’t as interested.


*You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV ‘ON’ than in bed. It’s called “pre-sleep”.


*You miss the days when everything worked with just an “ON” and “OFF” switch.


*You tend to use more 4 letter words … “what?”…”when?”… ???


*You notice everything they sell in stores is “sleeveless” !!!


*What used to be freckles are now liver spots.


*Everybody whisper!!! … you have come to expect that people will repeat what they just said to you.


*You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet … 2 of which you will never wear again.

BUT OLD IS GOOD IN SOME THINGS!

Old Songs, Old movies, and best of all,OLD FRIENDS!!

Stay well, “OLD FRIEND!”

It’s Not What You Gather, But What You Scatter That Tells What Kind Of Life You Have Lived.

TODAY IS THE OLDEST YOU’VE EVER BEEN, YET THE YOUNGEST YOU’LL EVER BE, SO ENJOY THIS DAY WHILE IT LASTS.

God Bless you, my friend, and I am proud to call you My Friend!


Having lost my father in July of 2010, I have gotten acquainted with life after death, life after grief and how grateful I truly am for how far I have come. Things were very uncertain during my 20s and I could definitely fill a couple books and short stories on these reckless, heartbreaking, life-shaping years but I don’t want to put too much pressure on myself. At this point in my life, I have validated too much ill-advice, have disrespected myself, others, neglected those who were there for me. Thought that death would be such a welcome relief. I realize now that I had been living for death, wishing for it, longing for it until my father passed and things began to shift and change at that point.

To this day, I’m unsure how I got here and can honestly say I have self-esteem, self-love, inner peace and without even being aware I do it, I practice gratefulness. It only works if it is genuine and coming from an honest place, though. I feel like for a long time, I was very good at playing those ideas without ever embodying them. I do now. Quite effortlessly.

The only quote that truly sums up what I went through is from the movie “Life As a House”

If you have not seen it, I highly recommend you find this little gem starring Kevin Kline, Kristin Scott Thomas, Hayden Christensen, Jena Malone and Mary Steenburgen.

Quite an endearing cast of characters, seamlessly played by talented All-Star actors, even Hayden Christensen is believable and engaging in this one, if I can be completely honest I find his acting a little bit like chewing bubble gum, flavorful and colorful at first but falls flat very quickly. Mind you, I have not seen him in a movie in a very long time and actors occasionally get better later in their careers. He’s definitely got an interesting look and a nice face.

This movie is one of my ultimate favorites however I do have a lot of those for many different reasons so I’m not sure how worthy and reliable as a reference I really am, anyhow, Life As A House is sort of like The Back Nine

This one stayed with me. It’s part of something I am sure deeply influenced me.

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